December 2009 Entries

Top 10 Games of the Last DECADE!

Wow... forget looking back just one year... how about looking back a whole decade!

My son is quite a "gamer," so I found this particular list fun. It's the Top 10 Games of the Decade from Yahoo Games.

One thing I liked about the list was how so many innocent games made the cut. Mario, Wii Fit, Wii Sports... good stuff. It also reveals that "game play" is still important.

This list also gives a pretty good glimpse of youth and gaming culture. With game giants like HALO (remember all the craze with each release?), and Guitar Hero (#1 for so long, fastest to reach the $1 billion mark, evening beating out the Grand Theft Auto releases... yeah!).

But unfortunately, the list also reflects the sad reality of our culture with its number 1 pick, Grand Theft Auto III, a game that gives into every fleshly urge imaginable. You've heard me blog about one of these games before, and may have even read David's Youth Culture Window Article about 2008's release of Grand Theft Auto 4.

But hey, I was happy to only see one game that truly disturbed me in a list of the decade's top 10 games. Not bad!

Click here for the slideshow/list of the Top 10 Games of the Decade.

(ht to David R. Smith)


Phoenix to Sacramento

Ah... the good ol' I-5.

California residents know what I'm talking about... one of the most boring drives in the nation. The Interstate 5 running North and South in California! Forget any pictures of California you've seen in the movies... the I-5 is as boring and desolate as they come. Every other state I fly into has greener and prettier pastures.

It's 5:30 a.m. right now, and I'm about to launch on a trip from Phoenix, AZ (visiting my wife's family) all the way to Sacramento. It will be about 14 hours with quick stops. We're gonna to it straight (with help from my wife and my 16 year old driving here and there). We start on the 10 going West, and in about 4 and a half hours, jump on the 210 cutting over to the 5... then it's 5 all the way home!

Sacto here I come!

Jonathan


Bella's Mom

Okay... my friend/co-worker David is hilarious.

He emailed me the link to the following video with only these words: "Bella's Mom"

If you haven't seen the new Twilight film, The New Moon, or listened to Todd and I rant about it on our new movie review podcast... David's comment won't make sense (basically, in The New Moon, Bella becomes irritatingly over-emotional) ... but you'll still find this video hilarious.

(if you can't see the video- click here to view it)

Wow!


Top 10 Christmas Gifts NOT to Get Your Wife

I want to wish you all a Merry Christmas, so I'll do it in the way I know how... with an incredibly stupid video!

I don't know how many of you saw this fun little video we made last year... sure to offend some!  :)  It's a list of Christmas shopping tips for husbands, but for those that miss the cynicism, this should be titled, "The Top 10 Christmas Gift Ideas NOT to get Your Wife!"

Women... I apologize ahead of time!  :)

(If you can't see the embedded video, CLICK HERE)

Merry Christmas!


It's About Time!

It's been a long haul... but my new book is finally in stock!

Those of you who have been my blog subscribers for a while now have been following the progress of my new book about engaging in one-on-one conversations with kids, a book titled CONNECT. Well... it's finally released! I just got copies yesterday, and those of you that pre-ordered the books... they are in the mail.

CONNECT is my 7th book. It's all about mentoring kids in one-on-one relationships. It deals with everything from how to talk with kids when you first meet them, how to engage them in spiritual conversations, and how to disciple believers. The book also provides a training exercise that youth ministry leadership teams can do together to take a spiritual inventory of their youth ministry and keep their leaders accountable to connecting with kids.

After teaching this material at a training workshop for a couple years now, I've decided to make my ppt training available to anyone who buys the book uniquely from us (click here for more about this).

I'm really excited to see this book finally arrive. If you missed the excitement, you'll want to read my earlier blog about what happened with the first printing of the book. Well... we have copies of the book in stock now... a great gift for all the adult leaders on your youth ministry team!  :)


Cookies So Good You'll Cry!

Okay... last year I opened a door to something that can't be closed. It was around last Christmas, and I shared a blog about my hot wife baking cookies in the kitchen... the best cookies in the Milky Way! These are a recipe from my wife's friend Dixie, and I promise you, your taste buds have never experienced this kind of pleasure!

In this blog last year, I gave you the recipe for these cookies. In the weeks to follow, I began getting emails... with DROOL on them! That's right... e-drool! They are that good!

Those of you that tried them last year, feel free to comment!

Guys... bake these for your wives or girlfriends or mother! They'll ravish you with love! I dare you to bake these cookies! Once you try these... you'll never go back!

Here's the recipe. It makes a huge batch!

Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Cookies
Dixie’s Recipe

2 cups butter
2 cups sugar
2 cups brown sugar
4 eggs
2 tsp. vanilla
4 cups flour
5 cups oatmeal
1 tsp. salt
2 tsp. baking powder
2 tsp. baking soda
24 oz. chocolate chips
one 8oz. Hershey bar
3 cups chopped walnuts (optional)

Cream together- butter, sugar, brown sugar, eggs, and vanilla. Set aside.

Using a blender, grind all of oatmeal into fine powder (do a small amount at a time). Pour into a LARGE bowl. Next, grate chocolate bar and combine with oatmeal. Now add flour, salt, baking powder and baking soda to same bowl and mix well. Combine creamed ingredients and dry mixture (here’s where the stirring takes some real strength, a strong spoon… and a big bowl!) After well blended, add chocolate chips and nuts. (and this is where I eat a bunch of the dough!)

Make golf ball size cookies. Place 2” apart on an ungreased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 for about 9-11 min.

Oh yeah... you are gonna thank me later for this!


Annual Movie Review Podcast

I can't believe that this is our third one... wow... time flies.

Many of you listen to our THE SOURCE FOR YOUTH MINISTRY podcasts. We've been doing them since May of 2007. And yesterday we just launched our third annual Movie Review Podcast (so much fun).

This is the podcast where Todd and I get together, review our favorite films of the year, review a film together and then talk a little bit about using movies in ministry. This is a chance for you to actually hear the two guys that bring you all the reviews on our MOVIE REVIEW page. If you like movies or are looking for movies to use for discussing with kids... you'll enjoy this podcast.

This year Todd and I start by reviewing New Moon. Funny... we talk quite a bit about how parents should respond to this film.

Then we share our favorite five films of the year-- five films you won't see on other critics' list. Films that your average joe will enjoy.

Pop on our podcast page and take a look. Or... just go to iTunes and search for Jonathan McKee and you'll see THE SOURCE FOR YOUTH MINISTRY podcast as a choice.

Enjoy!


My Friend Todd

If you've been a subscriber to my blog or a visitor of our website for even a short while, you've heard me talk about my friend Todd Pearage. Todd is not only one of our writers, he is also a youth worker out on the front lines. Or... was...

A little while ago Todd lost his job as a youth pastor.

Yeah... Merry Christmas.

I'll give you the ugly details in a minute. But first let me brag about my friend. I met Todd years ago on a speaking trip. One of the things that first drew me to the guy was his eagerness to grow and learn everything he could about youth ministry. Fast forward a couple years and Todd began volunteering for our ministry at www.TheSource4YM.com writing curriculum (the brand new Miley music discussion featured on our front page right now is one of his) and doing occasional movie reviews. Now he actually manages our movie review page and has joined us on numerous THE SOURCE PODCASTS, including our annual movie review podcast (the third of which will premier this weekend on our web site).

Our readers have really enjoyed what Todd has offered over the years. After Todd's "Skate Church" podcast, we received great feedback from people that appreciated Todd's insight as a guy "out on the front lines" trying to make an eternal difference in the lives of kids.

I wish our little non-profit had the money to hire Todd full time. I feel lucky to have him just a few hours a week.

Needless to say, Todd is having a rough Christmas this year. Please pray for Todd, his wife and his two children.

Unfortunately, Todd's old church had no idea what they just let slip through their fingers. When they hired him years ago, the head pastor wasn't even in the hiring process. Long story, but the church was "between pastors." The group that hired him assured Todd that they were looking for someone "contemporary."

Todd came into the church, and despite the volatile leadership above him, Todd was a phenomenal youth pastor to those kids. I got a chance to see his ministry first-hand on a few occasions in my travels.

I've had plenty of friends lose their jobs in this economy because of downsizing or budget cuts. Todd didn't lose his job for any of those reasons. Todd got "let go" by his church because he was too "contemporary" (the very thing he was hired for). When Todd first got the job, leadership changed, and they didn't like "contemporary" any more. A couple examples:

1. He brought in Christian bands for concerts.

2. He didn't wear a suit on Sunday morning.

Todd is the most humble guy. The "suit" story illustrates this. Todd didn't have a suit. The "current" pastor told him that was okay. But one week a guy in the congregation with deep pockets told the pastor that Todd should be wearing a suit on Sunday morning. That week, Todd was told by the same pastor to buy a suit.

Todd did, without complaint. I happened to call him when he was shopping for it and he told me the whole story. I (being true to my Irish roots) flipped out. "You're serious!!!!"

When Todd was eventually "asked to step down," Todd didn't make a scene at all. Todd went quietly. The whole situation really has me torn up.

Within two weeks the new pastor hired his best friend's son.

Hmmmmmm.

Todd is the second guy I've personally seen land blasted by the church in the last year. In both situations, there was no reason to "let them go," there was no "sin," and it definitely wasn't because they weren't performing their job well ...it was simply bad leadership. Regardless, both my friends exited humbly.

I know Todd will be hired by another church soon... he's an amazing youth pastor. In the meantime, he's doing odd jobs to pay bills, writing for us and for Interlinc. Please keep Todd in prayer.

David and I recorded a special podcast with Todd that we're going to air in January, talking about "transitions" in ministry. I look forward to you all hearing that. In the meantime, I encourage you to all listen to Todd and I this weekend when we release our third annual movie review podcast on our PODCAST PAGE.


Brand New Report on Minors Sexting

Emphasis on "brand new" and emphasis on "minors."

Yes, in the last year we've heard an abundance of reports about "sexting" ... that's when teenagers decide to use their mobile phones to send sexual text messages or images to each other. At noon today (hence the words "brand new"), Pew Internet released their newest report, Teens and Sexting, by Amanda Lenhart, their Senior Research Specialist.

The glaring number that popped right off the page at me was 4%. That's right-- this report shows only "4% of cell-owning teens ages 12-17 say they have sent sexually suggestive nude or nearly nude images of themselves to someone else via text messages."

The 4% popped out at me because this is by far the lowest number I've seen yet and I wanted to know if it was accurate. (Just a week or so ago I blogged about another new poll citing "more than a quarter of young people have been involved in sexting.")

First, let me note that people tend to love to post the "bigger" or more shocking numbers when these reports are released. Take, for example, CNN's article on the subject released today. Their headline: "15 Percent of Teens Get Sexual Text Messages." I guess that sounds a lot better than a mere 4% who send them.  :)

That being said, I really thought that 4% sounded low.

That's why I, first, read the entire report, available as a PDF download, including the section on the study's "methodology." Then... I couldn't help it. I had to call Pew Internet and ask them myself. I dialed their number and to my surprise got Amanda Lenhart on the phone. After introducing myself and thanking her for her report, I asked, "Why the disparity between these numbers and other reports?" I quickly sited the MTV/AP study, a study that this Pew Internet report even cited. In that study they reported that 19% of teens ages 13-18 had sent a sexually suggestive text message or email with nude or nearly-nude photos. It seemed that 4% and 19% weren't very close.

She was not only happy to engage in a dialogue about the study, she was very articulate in her responses to my questions. The first thing she highlighted was that the MTV/AP study included 18 and 19 year-olds, where her report only went up to age 17, and that really changes the numbers. I agreed, noting that her own report revealed 8% of 17-year-olds and sent sexually provocative images via text and 30% had received them. The older kids are, the more they do this. It's fairly clear that 18 and 19-year-olds really boost the percentages.

Looking back at the more recent AP-MTV poll that I blogged about just last week, that report (citing "more than a quarter of young people have been involved in sexting") was a study of 14-24-year-olds. It's pretty important to notice those ages.

She explained that in her report she wanted to highlight the sexting by "minors." So that difference in age accounts for much of the difference in percentages.

Her report spoke to the importance of this issue specifically with minors because of the laws and legislation emerging to deal with the issue. The report details several incidents where teenagers were accused, prosecuted or even listed as sex offenders for sending nude pictures to other minors.

We went on to talk about the methodology of the study. Her study was a phone study that required the consent of a parent to talk to the minor. I asked Ms. Lenhart blatantly, "Don't you think that might affect your results, the fact that you are only talking to teenagers whose parents connected you with them?" I shared my personal experience with the large percentage of troubled teens whose relationships with their parents were less than civil. I don't think any of those kids would have ever made it to the phone. I asked her, "Is this survey missing those kids?"

She contended that many of the kids who were surveyed seemed reluctant at first to even want to talk on the phone. She felt that their survey reached all kinds of kids. She went on to describe how accurate these samplings can be.

She summarized by saying that she didn't think the numbers were that far off from other studies like the MTV/AP report when you take into consideration the age difference and the plus or minus 4% accuracy that most these studies have.

I was pretty convinced, once talking with her. The only thing that still has me skeptical is the phone call methodology (you can read all about it in the report). I'm not expert when it comes to surveys, but as a guy who has spent a lot of time on campus, it seems to me the best way to do these studies would be in cooperation with the schools, using a random mix of schools and a random sampling of kids (of all socio-economic backgrounds, different races, different academic abilities) ... pull them from class and interview them. I would probably even try a personal interview (face to face) followed by an anonymous interview at a computer screen where the kids are assured that their answers are kept anonymous- noting the difference between the results as a whole.

Just my two cents.

Anyway, I encourage you to read her whole report. Fascinating stuff. Here's a glimpse at the overview:

The report also shared some interesting new tidbits, including the newest mobile phone use data (an update from the data I shared just yesterday!), with the 2009 statistic that now 58% of 12-year-olds own a cell phone (I'll have to use that stat with my 12-year-old daughter now when she says that all her friends own cell phones. Dang. It keeps changing in her favor!)


Teens and Mobile Phones Over the Past 5 Years

As a parent of two teenagers and a tween, I can assure you that "a cell phone" is still the hot item on the Christmas list of kids today. It's definitely on my 12-year-old's Christmas list. She claims that she's the only one without it.

Little did she know that I could tell her exactly what percentage of her friends have one!  :)  Yes, 51% of 12-year olds own cell phones. So yes, she's in the minority, but just barely!

The fascinating fact is how much this percentage has grown in the last 5 years. In 2004, only 18% of 12-year-olds owned a cell phone.

Where am I getting this? Pew Internet just did a study a few months back looking back at teen mobile use over the last five years. Fascinating report! It's amazing to see the growth in teen mobile phone use! (note: a few weeks ago I blogged about teen media use and showed a similar Neilson report, although that chart showed what percentage of kids get their first cell phone at what age).

Look at the change from 2004 (dark blue) to now (light blue) for ages 12-17:

This entire report is interesting. It includes teens daily activities on a phone, the demographics of teen cell phone users, how many teen cell phone users compared to adults, etc.

I find this chart even more fascinating:

Forget the ages for a second. Look at the mobile time (dark blue) vs. face-to-face time (light blue)! See how much more kids are relying on technology than good ol' face-to-face time? The funny thing is, kids are becoming less comfortable talking face-to-face.

I keep seeing this fact popping up in new studies. In Chapter 2 of my CONNECT book (in stock within a week) I touched on that very subject, highlighting the decrease in "face-to-face" time and the void that it's creating in kids lives (I actually blogged about that a while back- people today have less close friends). I think it's crucial as parents and youth workers to connect with kids "face-to-face." This is slowly becoming more difficult in today's society... hence the need for a book helping adults connect with kids.   :)


Avatar

I get to go to quite a few screenings... and I haven't been to one this "regulated" in years. (Movie reviewers only, no guests, one screening, no cameras, etc.) But hey... this is James Freaking Cameron!

Think about it. We haven't seen a film from Cameron since Titanic, the biggest box office success ever! So you can imagine my excitement when I heard that I got a chance to screen Avatar. Congruently, you can probably relate to my high expectations.

Look at Cameron's repertoire of films: Terminator, Aliens, The Abyss, T2, True Lies, Titanic... not a dud in the bunch (a couple of rentals, but not a dud). How do you follow up the greatest selling film of all time?

I'm actually not allowed to post my review of the film until next Friday, the 18th (told you it was stringent), but I'm allowed to make some broad comments about my screening experience.

First, I'll tell you that the film is definitely worthy of going to the theatre for the release. A mere glimpse of the preview on the official site will tell you that. The film is over 2 hours and 40 minutes long and I didn't want to miss a minute. I attended the screening right after lunch and had to pee so bad two hours into it I almost went in a cup! (I didn't... I sprinted!)

I'd love to give you details, but I can't yet. I'll just tell you that there were a few scenes that were visually amazing. The fantasy genre has proven to be well liked by audiences in the last decade, and I think the whole "avatar" premise will be welcomed by an extremely "virtual" generation.

But, all that said, it was hard for the film to rise to my expectations. This film is the "little brother" of "the captain of the football team." It doesn't matter how good or bad it is... it will always be compared to Titanic.

I called my son as soon as the screening was done and started giving him the play-by-play. I told him of scenes he would love and scenes that I thought they could have improved. I told him it was enjoyable, but a little preachy and too new age for me at times (I didn't tell you that... I just told him that.. wink, wink.)

The main aspect I have to vent about is the choice to do 3D. (I don't even know if I'm allowed to talk about this) I'm really disappointed they went 3D. I'll be honest: I've never enjoyed a 3D film, ever! I was sitting at home in front of an HD screen literally 3 hours after the screening and the preview came on. I thought the preview on my HD screen looked better than I had just seen on the big screen wearing the stupid 3D glasses. I hate 3D. And there weren't really any great 3D moments. So the 3D definitely effected my perception of the film.

That all being said... the film was really good overall.

I'll share my official review next week with what I liked and didn't like. I'll also share my "two cents" on how appropriate it is (or isn't) for kids. The only thing I'll say now is that there is a lot of weird religious themes throughout the film that parents will want to talk about with their kids, especially in today's culture of mix and match religions (just saw an article on that very subject here yesterday).


Helping Kids Process Grief

Tragedy is a reality. We all face it at times. The question we might have as parents and youth workers is, "How can we help our kids process this kind of grief?"

My city has been dealing with this recently as three young people were killed in a car wreck. The intriguing thing I'm noticing is the different advice we're hearing about helping kids deal with this.

Our Sacramento Bee newspaper offered some interesting observations in their recent article about the incident, noting that teenagers don't grieve like adults. The article contends that teenagers bury their feelings deep because of the pressure to look good and seem confident.

I'm not sure I agree with that generalization at all. I have seen plenty of evidence to the contrary, where kids will almost have complete meltdowns over even trivial matters. Youth workers like to call this "drama." We've all seen it. Billy breaks up with Ali and Ali reacts no better than "Bella" in the recent movie New Moon... complete emotional breakdown.

I think some teenagers probably do have a propensity to repress feelings or "gunnysack," but I wouldn't try to rubberstamp that as a diagnosis for all teenagers. It would be difficult to generalize "all students" as grieving one way. Students are so diverse in how they process things.

But the same Bee article also noted something I found quite interesting- something I definitely have observed mainstream- the desire teenagers have to just be together and process grief with their friends.

"A lot of times, kids don't necessarily want to talk, they just want to be together," said Lissa Morgan, counselor at Rocklin. "They just want to go into the room and feel supported by one another."

A steady rotation of students filled a conference room at Rocklin on Monday and Tuesday, where chaplains and counselors were on call. Most students sat quietly, Morgan said, or signed a poster with notes to Pak, a junior who died in the car crash.

Students at Folsom also taped a banner to an outside wall for Shaw, a senior who died in the crash. Throughout the day, students picked up Crayola markers to write notes or draw pictures. Or they gathered at the wall to share memories of Shaw.

"You didn't have to know him for this to affect you," said Yasi Saderi, 17, senior class president, who plans to give the completed banner to Shaw's mother. "We wanted everyone to express what they felt."

The wall is especially effective for teens, White said, because it gives them permission to express their feelings without being put on the spot. Reading others' comments helps teens understand their own feelings.

I emailed this article to my buddy Lane Palmer to ask his two cents. Lane has a counseling background and was a youth pastor in Columbine during the 1999 incident. Lane, a regular contributor to our website, has written articles for us about dealing with school shooting tragedies and how to process this kind of grief as a group. Lane chimed in on this particular Sacramento Bee article and how students can process grief in a healthy way:

Every teen to some extent will go through the grieving period during adolescence, so youth workers need to be aware and ready to help.  It could be the death of a parent, friend suicide, or even a grieving of moving out of childhood.  It’s a great opportunity to help students understand and process both the joys and loss that relationships and life brings.

I agree that letting the teens just ‘hang out’ and process on a peer level is important, but equally important is encouraging them to process their feelings in some way- talking, journaling, drawing, etc.  With some of the Columbine students, I just sat and let the conversation flow.

Avoid any ‘you need to be strong’ or ‘you need to move on’ stuff.  Every teen grieves in a different way and time.

I think hanging a huge butcher paper in the youth room and make a general opportunity to write thoughts, names, struggles, etc. would be a great thing for any youth group

Great advice from Lane.

You can check out the entire Sacramento Bee article here.


Whooops! Wrong CONNECT

This is a funny story... although it probably wasn't too funny for the person that hit the wrong key on the keyboard, resulting in thousands of newly printed books being pulled. Whooops!

Most of you know that my brand new book CONNECT is due on the shelves in January, but I'm supposed to get copies this month (hundreds of you have already pre-ordered those copies and already received the free ppt training we're giving away to anyone who buys the book from us).

For weeks now, the question has been... when this month? For those with a short attention span- the answer is- probably around Christmas. You'll just never guess as to why...

I never tell people the exact release dates in case of a mess-up. We just have been telling people a nice broad DECEMBER. Well... let me let you in on a huge whoops that is being corrected as we speak.

My publisher was actually going to get those books to me the day before Thanksgiving. I was thrilled, because then I would have been shipping them to you all and you probably would have had them in your hands right now! But, when the books were finished being printed, Fed-ex couldn't deliver the 1,000-plus books I ordered before Thanksgiving, so we scheduled the delivery for the Monday after Thanksgiving. Meanwhile, my publisher overnighted one copy- hot off the press- and I received that two days before Thanksgiving.

On Thanksgiving day I'm hanging out with my family and my dad is thumbing through the book (the book that my publisher has already printed thousands of). My dad asks me, "What is this weird punctuation I keep seeing in the indented sections?"

Now, let me put this in perspective. I have proofed this book probably four times in the last three months. My publisher has editors, those editors even have proofers, then they send it to me for my two cents... then I send it back to them if I have any changes, etc. etc. The thing gets read and tweaked about 20 times in the last few months. When I got the copy off the press, I browsed through it quickly, but I didn't look in detail. My dad, however, was reading through an entire chapter.

Apparently someone hit the wrong button when the final draft got sent to the printer. I don't know how it happened... but every indented section in the book (every quote, every indented example, etc.) was somehow coded wrong and has some bizarre punctuation that makes it look like Spanish punctuation or something. Take a peek at this pic I snapped of one of the indented sections:

Those errors are throughout the whole book on that initial printing.

So on Thanksgiving day I'm emailing my publisher, "I've got some REALLY bad news."

Long story short, thousands of books were recalled, and now they are being reprinted (within the next week, I think). We've all been waiting for a new date. Just today, they have told me that I will see the new "error free" copies, early in the week of Christmas.

So those of you who pre-order, you will still get them from me before you get them from anywhere else (because they are rushing me the first copies). And, those that order from our web site will not only get them first, they will also get the free ppt training we are giving away to anyone who purchases from us.

So what's the date? If I am shipping them the week of Christmas... those who choose PRIORITY MAIL will get them just a few days later, but those who choose the cheap media mail won't get them till closer to New Years.

Nice.

In defense of my publisher Zondervan... they've never made a mistake like this before with me, and they have been amazing through this process. They have promised to rush me my pre-order copies and are making every effort to help. Much thanks to all of them at Z!

And thanks to all of you who are being patient as well. I know, I know... we've said December all along. But usually I wouldn't have pushed it this close to January. So thanks for your patience!


Free Stuff from To Save a Life

You guys like free stuff, right? Well... I've got something for ya. Those of you who have been subscribers of my blog for a while might remember me talking about a Christian film I got a chance to screen, a film titled, To Save a Life. The writer of the film, Jim Britts, is a buddy of mine, and he just hooked me up with some free stuff to give away to you guys. I've got 10 things to give away. So I thought we'd have another little contest. More on that in a minute.

This film is one you really should check into. It's releasing in the theatres January 22 and is something I would use in two ways. One, I'd use it to open doors to spiritual conversations with my outreach kids. Secondly, I'd definitely use this as a tool with my student leaders to help them start thinking about reaching out to their friends at school and what that actually looks like. The film addressed typical church youth group "hypocracy" like no other.

I really enjoyed this film (you can check out my earlier blog about it here, where I gave my complete "two cents" on the film and received a few comments that got pretty interesting). As I mentioned, it's a fantastic tool to show to a small group of kids or even an entire youth groups and discuss afterwards. It's very real... even a little edgy at parts (You can see their new trailer here on their official site).

Jim is giving me three of his Youth Curriculum Kits to give away to you (a cool little kit with a seven week teaching series- it's got a leaders guide, a DVD with clips from the film, ppts, and more)... and seven of the To Save a Life Novels. Cool stuff!

So here goes: a little "google-proof" movie trivia again since we're talking about movies here:

The first three people that use the comment feature of this blog to answer just one of the questions below correctly, get the To Save a Life Kits. The 7 runner ups get the novels.

*BONUS PRIZE: Because of the rapid rate at which people won the first contest, I offered a bonus prize to any of those who could answer questions 1 or 3 below (because question 2 turned out to be "Googlable!) To those bonus winners, I put them on the list to receive a copy of my new CONNECT book coming out this month. Only two additional people got it. CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED. All comments are posted below now.

1. What scene of what movie did actor Richard Dreyfuss refer to when he said that he didn't even have to make up his interest in another actor because he was so captivated by his performance? (those are my words, so you can't Google his real words!)   :)   ANSWER: Jaws, during Quint's speech

2. In what movie does Joe say, "I got Ice Capades!"   ANSWER: Joe Junior says it in my wife's favorite film ever, While You Were Sleeping. Then he says, "I know a guy!"

3. What scene of what movie did Morgan Freeman shoot, only to come onto the set the next day with an ice-pack on his shoulder, with no mention of it or no complaint?   ANSWER: The baseball throwing scene in Shawshank Redemption.

That's it. If you don't know it, ask your movie geek friends. First 10 people with correct answers win!

If you're just visiting the blog now and want to subscribe so next time you don't miss all the fun- do so here- it's free!


Sexting and the Teenage Brain

I think sexting is probably one of the biggest youth culture issues addressed by the news-media in the last year. Our ministry has written articles on the subject, (including this article about how to wade through "media hype") and I've blogged about it numerous times, even this week when we saw another suicide that began from a sexting incident.

Now MTV/Associated Press has taken a poll and shared their findings. I always find it ironic that MTV is doing these studies. I understand why they want to know this information-- so they can better understand the generation that they are pimping their smut too-- but I just wonder how MTV execs sleep at night when they discover the truth from all these polls.

Even Conan O Brian joked about this in his monologue last night, commenting that MTV was recommending that kids don't participate in sexting. He jested, "MTV says there's a time and a place to share these intimate moments... and that's on one of our 17 reality shows!"    :)

Anyway... the AP article reporting on this study shares that more than a quarter of young people have been involved in sexting in some form. I also found it interesting that only about half of the kids surveyed saw the issue as a big problem.

The article goes on to talk about the teen brain, arguing that teenage brains are not quite mature enough to make good decisions:

Research shows teenage brains are not quite mature enough to make good decisions consistently. By the mid-teens, the brain's reward centers, the parts involved in emotional arousal, are well-developed, making teens more vulnerable to peer pressure.

But it is not until the early 20s that the brain's frontal cortex, where reasoning connects with emotion, enabling people to weigh consequences, has finished forming.

Beyond feeling invincible, young people also have a much different view of sexual photos that might be posted online, Bogle said. They don't think about the idea that those photos might wind up in the hands of potential employers or college admissions officers, she said.

"Sometimes they think of it as a joke; they have a laugh about it," Bogle said. "In some cases, it's seen as flirtation. They're thinking of it as something far less serious and aren't thinking of it as consequences down the road or who can get hold of this information. They're also not thinking about worst-case scenarios that parents might worry about."

You can read the whole AP article here.

This seems to coincide with earlier research about the brain- I talked about the teenage brain a few years back, with my two cents and a biblical response.

Bottom line: continue to talk with our kids about these issues.

(ht to KJ for the AP article)


My Movie Room

Okay... so it's not really a movie room. It's a room in my house that my kids have always called "the play room." It's got a TV, some game systems, our family computer, a big corner couch.

Last weekend I got a crazy idea for decorating it... looks pretty cool, huh?

Quick contest: Take a peek at the border of movies around the top (I'll tell you how I did that in a moment). First 5 people who comment below with the title of at least 15 of the 19 movies displayed in this picture... I'll send you any one of my books for free- your choice. Bonus offer: The first person who sends me the CORRECT names of the directors of all 19 films... I'll send you any three of my books for free! (make sure you include your email- never displayed- when you enter the comment so I can email the winners)

UPDATE: We have all 5 single book winners: Brian Senecal, Ryan Klein, Ed Overell, Jeff Gin, and Chris Miller have each named at least 15. And now Mike just won the bonus prize too. Good job! Thanks all for playin!

The movies around the top border are actually laser disc covers. For those of you who aren't total movie geeks like I am... Laser discs are those big silver things that looked like records before DVDs. They actually were the "hype" when VHS was still around. Laser discs had almost twice the resolution... so movie geeks owned them. Once DVD's came out... movie geeks like me were left with a large collection of silver Frisbees!

But when I saw the covers the other day, I thought, "Hey, those would make a good border around the room!"

There you have it!

Pretty cool, huh?


The Ugly... Ugly Truth

Last night Lori and I rented the comedy romance The Ugly Truth with Gerard Butler and Katherine Heigl. I needed to review it anyway for our MOVIE REVIEW page, and I always enjoy a good romantic comedy with Lori.

My thoughts?

Very ugly... very little truth.

Some people might be quick to tell me, "Hey Jonathan, it's rated R! What did you expect?" First, this won't be the first time I've said it, I don't put much weight in the MPAA's rating system. The Ugly Truth is "rated R for sexual content and language." That would also describe Jerry McGuire or When Harry Met Sally, both films that are not only "true" and real, but also are very pro-marriage.

The Ugly Truth was none of that. Looking at the preview, I should have foreseen that.

Here's a snippet from my official movie review:

Abby (Katherine Heigl) is a romantically challenged morning show producer who is appalled by Mike (Gerard Butler), a chauvinist with a cable call-in show called “The Ugly Truth.” When Abby’s station faces the reality of low ratings, they hire Mike to come and liven up her show with his raw, risqué antics. In other words, they sold out, like most of today’s media does.
 
This attempt at a romantic comedy was simply one raunchy gag after the next, and sprinkled with the typical subtle lies that promote today’s “hook-up” culture.
 
Audiences who enjoyed Knocked Up and the like will probably enjoy this film as well. Audiences who don’t enjoy non-stop locker-room humor will want to skip this insult to their intelligence.
 
Take the moment early in the film when Abby is climbing a tree to save her cat, only to see in her “hunk” of a neighbor’s window, seeing him get out of the shower. Of course the branch breaks, she loudly falls, catching herself by her feet so we can see her hang upside down in her panties, and him run out in a towel to see what all the hullabaloo is all about (I’ve been waiting for years to use that word in a sentence). She somehow grabs his towel off, leaving him standing naked with his crotch in her face.
 
Did the writers of Three’s Company write this?
 
Don’t waste your time. Skip it.